We take a chance from time to time And put our necks out on the line And you have broken every promise that we made And I have loved you anyway
Took a fine time to leave me hangin’ out to dry Understand now I’m greivin’ So don’t you waste my time Cause you have taken All the wind out from my sails And I have loved you just the same
We finally find this then you’re gone Been chasin’ rainbows all along And you have cursed me When there’s no one left to blame And I have loved you just the same And you have broken every single fucking rule And I have loved you like a fool
we were walking then.. from ELJ building-mother ignacia side, going to esguerra ave where his car was parked.. it was raining then.. that’s the first time i knew he has a car. a tricycle passed by us and i was almost hit. he immediately embraces me and checked if i was hurt. when i said no, we continued walking..
he asked me for the time.. i said i don’t have a watch. funny because he has one.
then he said, “patingin nga ng fingers mo..” then he looked at it. then he laced our fingers together.. then he said “ang galing no.. fit na fit sa fingers ko..” as we continued walking.. he never let go of my hand until we reached the car.
Note: All of this only applies to smart, reasonable women who aren’t delusional enough to think he’s ever going to leave her for you. He’s not. They almost never do, and even in the rare cases when they do, and the two of you actually make an attempt at a real relationship, it will ultimately be doomed because you will never be able to fully trust each other.
That said, if you aren’t looking to break anyone up, or steal anyone’s man, but just want to enjoy being a part-time lover, here are some reasons why you might absolutely love it.
It’s incredibly exciting Of all the kinds of chemistry you can experience with someone, there is absolutely nothing hotter than the forbidden “we really shouldn’t be doing this” sexual tension you have with a man who’s taken.
You feel so much sexier Odds are, if he’s stepping out on his girl, he’s bored of fucking her. Or he wants you so badly that he’s going to sleep with you despite being happy with her. Regardless, no man will ever make you feel as desired and beautiful as the one who know he shouldn’t be with you, but is anyway. Being the other woman makes you feel awesome about yourself.
The build-up Whether it takes place over the course of one night when you first meet, or you know each other for months, there’s always that time before you give in where you really try to not sleep with them. Maybe you’re genuinely trying to hold back, or maybe you’re both just pretending to hold back because A) you want to appear to be good people, and B) the whole “oh no, we mustn’t” game is insanely hot – either way, those hours/days/weeks before you give in are the most intense foreplay ever.
None of the boring stuff You know that feeling when you’re in a relationship and you have days where you just don’t feel like putting in the effort? Sure, you care about the person, but you really can’t get it up to, like, have a conversation with them, or pick up their dry cleaning, or have the mind-numbingly dull “what should be do for dinner?” conversation. Sleeping with someone else’s boyfriend means you get to be their shining escape from the monotony of monogamy, not a bored participant. That’s a very fun role to play in someone’s life. You don’t have to worry that you eventually want kids and they don’t. You don’t have to have those agonizing “where is this going?” talks – you know where it’s going, which is basically nowhere. Eventually, the affair will lose its sparkle and you’ll be done. Case closed. There’s something so liberating about the simplicity of your arrangement, and something so light about considering all the strings you don’t have tied to you. You aren’t even obligated to have dinner with their parents when they visit because why the hell would you need to meet his parents? Let the girlfriend deal with their thinly veiled fondness for his ex. You don’t have to deal with any anxiety that comes with a relationship – you just get to be there for the part when he tries to take his mind off of it all.
It’s laid back Who cares if you do or say the wrong thing, or have food in your teeth, or didn’t have time to shave? There’s a refreshing freedom to be human and flawed when you know all those little imperfections are overshadowed by the biggest turn-on of all: You’re not his girlfriend! That’s a pretty hard boner to deflate.
You have more time for yourself Sleeping with an attached man means you aren’t obligated to see him except when you want to, and have time. He’s not going to be taking over your TV to watch sports when you want to watch Mad Men; he’s not going to be hanging out waiting to talk your ear off when you get home from a long day of work and just want some peace and quiet. “Oh, you feel like going to dinner right when I have yoga class? Call your girlfriend (and then call me later.)” You’re always free to say you’re busy and it’s no big deal, and even when you do see each other, he’s usually just in and out (get it?! I had to.)
You learn who your real friends are You should always be thankful for experiences and situations that sort the ride-or-die, cradle-to-grave friends from the fake, flaky kind. True friends will have your back no matter what, even when you’re making morally questionable decisions. Your besties understand that you aren’t actually an evil, heartless monster – you’ve just finally found a relationship where you get everything you need, and give the other person exactly what they need. It just so happens that it’s a secret fuck buddy with a girlfriend. Your real friends totally support you doing you.
You can skip the gym! Nothing gets your heart rate up like contemplating the possibility of his girlfriend coming home early from work. Being the side-piece comes with built-in cardio!
Ever heard of the phrase, “the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else?” Yeah, it’s a little vulgar, but it’s also a common way people attempt to get over a breakup – by hooking up with someone else. And sometimes they take it even a little further and find themselves in a rebound relationship.
What is a rebound? To put it simply, it’s basically a distraction to keep a guy or girl from thinking about their recent breakup. If a guy goes into a rebound relationship, he’s looking for a quick way to get over his ex by being with someone else. But what he’s really doing his projecting his feelings about his ex onto a new girl – in a sense, he’s using the new girl.
People who go into rebound relationships don’t go into them with the intention of using someone or hurting someone else. They usually think they’re helping themselves… that’s what makes rebounds so tricky. Have you ever felt like your new BF maybe isn’t over his ex? Do you think you could be a rebound? If you’re suddenly freaking out, here are 7 signs to look out for:
He’s Newly Single
Did your new BF literally just go through a breakup? By that I mean did it happen in the last month or so? If so, that’s probably the biggest warning sign of a rebound relationship, especially if he was in a long-term relationship right before he met you. While it’s totally possible to meet a new sweetie you genuinely like, most people who go through a tough breakup need a good amount of time to themselves to get over their ex before they can move onto someone new. Even if he insists he’s over her, if their relationship only ended a few weeks ago, he’s probably not.
He Talks About His Ex… A Lot
It’s fine to bring up your ex every once in a while (and by that I mean not a lot at all), but if your BF brings up his ex constantly, that’s not a good sign. If he’s talking about her, that means he’s thinking about her… and if he were completely over her, he probably wouldn’t be thinking about her so much. Be especially wary if he spends a lot of time comparing the two of you. Not only is that a sign of a rebound, but it’s also not cool and unfair.
He Still Seems Very Bitter
It’s totally normal to have some not-so-great feelings about an ex, especially if it was a messy breakup. But if your guy is constantly bashing his ex, gets really bummed out when he hears things about her or seems really bitter about the end of their relationship, that’s not good. If he were totally over her, he wouldn’t still be so passionate about her, even if what he’s saying is bad. It’s a sign that there are still strong feelings there.
He’s All About Hooking Up
When someone goes into a rebound relationship, they’re looking for the sort of connection they used to have with their ex – they want to feel close and intimate to someone, anyone. If your new BF is all about intense hookup sessions and then can seem a little weird afterwards, watch out. Keep in mind you should take this one with a grain of salt. Just because your guy wants to hook up all the time, that doesn’t automatically make you a rebound. Pay attention to his responses, because that’s how you’ll know if something else is going on.
His Facebook Statuses Are Still Sad
Don’t ignore sad, miserable statuses full of depressing song lyrics. If a guy is showing some serious emotion on Facebook, that means there’s something going on that he may not be telling you. One or two may not be a big deal, but if his Facebook is painful to look at because it makes others so uncomfortable, he’s definitely not over his ex. It’s easy to ignore these kinds of signs when you really like someone, but please don’t brush it off as just his favorite music or something like that.
He Can Be Super Intense…
Someone who is in a rebound usually goes from hot to cold pretty quickly. If your new BF has moments where he’s super intense, be on the lookout. That could be a sign that he’s projecting his feelings for his ex onto you. This sign is really easy to overlook, because of course you want to assume he really does feel that way for you. But if it’s too much too soon, it might not be good.
…But Also Super Distant
This is where your dude goes from hot to cold. If he get’s panicky and nervous when you bring up the future, be careful. If he seems weird about giving your relationship a title, he may be hoping his ex will still come back to him. Commitmentphobes could just be rebound relationships in disguise.
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